This week we learned about love and dating.
In our world today, people are spending more time hanging out but not actually dating and courting their significant other.
We learned that there are four steps to get to marriage:
1. Dating: Meet a variety of people and date them individually but not exclusively.
2. Courtship: Dating exclusively
3. Engagement: Making decisions. Deciding the wedding plans and roles in the future family and other important decisions.
4. Marriage: An exclusive, mutually beneficial union to build families and progress together.
To date means that it is paid for, the two are in a pair, and that the activity is planned. When both parties understand that definition, then the date will go much better. Each person will be able to learn important skills that will help them connect and understand other people and work well together which is important in marriage. So many people today are just hanging out in large groups watching movies and calling that a date. Hanging out won't give you all the skills you need to be in a good marriage.
We also learned that there are different types of love and that each are good and each are important to have in different stages of life but also within a marriage.
The types of love are philia, agapa, eros, storge. Philia is a love between friends. Agapa is a love of all men, a charitable, selfless love. Eros is a passionate, romantic and intense love. And Storge is the love of a parent to a child. These types of love are very different but to have a friendship love (philia), passionate (eros) and the selfless love of agapa are all important for a marriage.
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