This week we learned about love and dating.
In our world today, people are spending more time hanging out but not actually dating and courting their significant other.
We learned that there are four steps to get to marriage:
1. Dating: Meet a variety of people and date them individually but not exclusively.
2. Courtship: Dating exclusively
3. Engagement: Making decisions. Deciding the wedding plans and roles in the future family and other important decisions.
4. Marriage: An exclusive, mutually beneficial union to build families and progress together.
To date means that it is paid for, the two are in a pair, and that the activity is planned. When both parties understand that definition, then the date will go much better. Each person will be able to learn important skills that will help them connect and understand other people and work well together which is important in marriage. So many people today are just hanging out in large groups watching movies and calling that a date. Hanging out won't give you all the skills you need to be in a good marriage.
We also learned that there are different types of love and that each are good and each are important to have in different stages of life but also within a marriage.
The types of love are philia, agapa, eros, storge. Philia is a love between friends. Agapa is a love of all men, a charitable, selfless love. Eros is a passionate, romantic and intense love. And Storge is the love of a parent to a child. These types of love are very different but to have a friendship love (philia), passionate (eros) and the selfless love of agapa are all important for a marriage.
Saturday, October 26, 2013
Thursday, October 17, 2013
The week of October 14-18. Gender Roles and the Family
This week we discussed gender roles and those roles that are in the family
I really
enjoyed this week’s discussion on the roles of the family and the
gender-typical behaviors. I especially enjoyed the movie that we watched on the
society’s views of what the roles of men and women are. The video discussed whether men and women especially boys and girls choose different toys or activities because that is what they have been taught by society/parents or if that is their biological make-up. The question is do girls play with dolls in a nurturing way because they have been taught to play that way by their parents or society or do they play with dolls because they are biologically made to have special skills to nurture?
I believe that we are
men and women by Heavenly Father’s design and it takes both of us to raise a family.
In a talk by David A. Bednar (who is an apostle of the Lord) entitled: “Marriage is essential to His eternal plan”
he states that “The natures of male and female spirits complete and perfect
each other.” This confirms to me that we were men and women in the pre-mortal life.
We were meant to be the gender that we are and we have divine attributes that
only our gender has and we have to be together in a marriage to be able to
reach our full potential. Women and men complete each other but we are not two halves perfectly split down the middle, we are jagged like a puzzle piece that fit together perfectly, both of us having a little bit of knowledge and completing the other's knowledge and skills.
I am a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and believe very strongly and have a knowledge that men and women are meant to marry and complete each other in their journey through life.
To learn more about the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints or the Mormon Church visit:
A link to Elder David A. Bednar's talk:
Friday, October 11, 2013
October 7-11th Class, Culture and the family structure
This week we discussed how the economic class and culture that your family is living in affects your family.
We discussed that some people who are considered to be in a lower class bracket by the amount of money they make often has a huge affect the rest of the aspects of their family. Typically, the parents are working so they don't have much time to teach and influence their children and the children tend to take care of each other or start working to help the other family members. Then we discussed the people who are considered in the higher status of class. The interesting thing was that these children in the family don't typically spend much time with their parents either because they have nannies to watch them or their parents are away much of the time. The socio-economic status of your family could effect how your family is treated based only on money. But a person is so much more than the amount of money that they make. Some higher class families could spend all their time with their children because they don't have to worry about working to provide for the children.
Culture can also affect the way your family functions. We discussed the ways that families are run in different parts of the world. Some families have the fathers work outside the home and the mothers stay because that is what is socially acceptable. Other families only have one parent and grow up completely without the other parent in their lives.
How have you noticed that your family is affected by culture or social class?
We discussed that some people who are considered to be in a lower class bracket by the amount of money they make often has a huge affect the rest of the aspects of their family. Typically, the parents are working so they don't have much time to teach and influence their children and the children tend to take care of each other or start working to help the other family members. Then we discussed the people who are considered in the higher status of class. The interesting thing was that these children in the family don't typically spend much time with their parents either because they have nannies to watch them or their parents are away much of the time. The socio-economic status of your family could effect how your family is treated based only on money. But a person is so much more than the amount of money that they make. Some higher class families could spend all their time with their children because they don't have to worry about working to provide for the children.
Culture can also affect the way your family functions. We discussed the ways that families are run in different parts of the world. Some families have the fathers work outside the home and the mothers stay because that is what is socially acceptable. Other families only have one parent and grow up completely without the other parent in their lives.
How have you noticed that your family is affected by culture or social class?
Friday, October 4, 2013
Third Week of Class: September 30 through October 4
Hello!
This week in class we learned about four different family theories.
The first theory we learned about was the Family Systems theory:
This theory has these main points
- The whole is greater than its parts.
- Each member has a specific role.
- There are rules to the family both written and unwritten.
The next theory was Exchange Theory:
- It is a give and take situation. I will only do something if I get something out of it.
Symbolic Interaction Theory:
- I perform an action and the other person could interpret it differently than what I intended for it to mean.
- We have meaning with all interactions.
Conflict Theory:
- Two people who are smart could still have misunderstandings but they can talk them out and then they will be working effectively together.
I really enjoyed learning about these theories. I like theories, it helps me make sense and relate what I am learning to myself. The theories that I liked the most from this list were the "symbolic interaction" and the "family systems". The symbolic interaction is one that I can relate to, there are so many times that my spouse and I will do something for each other without being asked and see the kindness in that act of service. But there have been times where we will do something for the other that they may take to mean as a way of getting something, like a guilt trip to do the dishes. I also liked the family systems theory a lot. In my own experience I have thought of the family as living thing, when one person moves or a situation causes roles to change then the family adapts.
This week in class we learned about four different family theories.
The first theory we learned about was the Family Systems theory:
This theory has these main points
- The whole is greater than its parts.
- Each member has a specific role.
- There are rules to the family both written and unwritten.
The next theory was Exchange Theory:
- It is a give and take situation. I will only do something if I get something out of it.
Symbolic Interaction Theory:
- I perform an action and the other person could interpret it differently than what I intended for it to mean.
- We have meaning with all interactions.
Conflict Theory:
- Two people who are smart could still have misunderstandings but they can talk them out and then they will be working effectively together.
I really enjoyed learning about these theories. I like theories, it helps me make sense and relate what I am learning to myself. The theories that I liked the most from this list were the "symbolic interaction" and the "family systems". The symbolic interaction is one that I can relate to, there are so many times that my spouse and I will do something for each other without being asked and see the kindness in that act of service. But there have been times where we will do something for the other that they may take to mean as a way of getting something, like a guilt trip to do the dishes. I also liked the family systems theory a lot. In my own experience I have thought of the family as living thing, when one person moves or a situation causes roles to change then the family adapts.
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